How to Stop Condoms from Ruining the Moment

So you've enjoyed a hot and heavy make out session and some steamy foreplay and now it's time to reach for a condom and get down to the task at hand. All is well and good right? Wrong. Many men experience real problems when the time to pull on a condom rears its head (ahem). The vast majority of these men find that their erections soften or go away completely while they mess about opening and putting on a condom. They say that condoms ruin the moment, or take their minds of what they are doing resulting in the loss of their erection. The worst part is that if this minor annoyance continues to happen over and over it can become more of a mental problem than a physical one and can be very hard to fix. They may end up dreading the moment when a condom is required, and their penis (and their sex life in general!) will bear the brunt of their nerves. Many men also say that condoms diminish sensation by a massive amount which can lead to a less-than-perfect erection and a problem climaxing.

So what can be done about this? We need to find a solution to these problems as condoms are the best and most healthy way to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancy.

The first possible solutions to this issue could be to ensure that a pack of condoms is within easy reach of the bed (or anywhere else that you choose to make love) at all times so that neither partner needs to scramble around looking for one. Also, purchase feather light condoms if possible so that more sensation can be preserved.

A great way to make the putting on of a condom sexier is to have her do it while simultaneously stimulating the penis and balls in order to keep him fully erect. Some women learn to put a condom on with their lips"but I've never managed to master this one! An easy way to continue stimulation is to breathe on the penis as you roll the condom down, and kiss/suck/play with his balls. This way his mind will be on that and not on the condom!

Finally, there is always the option of switching from condoms to another form of contraception such as the pill, implant or coil, but none of these protect against STDs. They are however a good choice for couples in long term relationships who have ascertained that they are both in tip top sexual health. In fact, an article was published recently on the Netdoctor website says that a new male contraceptive gel is currently undergoing trials in the US. The gel is designed to lower sperm count and has been successful in the trials undertaken thus far. This gel could well provide the opportunity for couples to share the responsibility of inserting, swallowing or injection birth control substances, but is perhaps one for the future.

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    Lottie